You’re a member of the wedding party or an honored guest—so honored you’ve been asked to toast the newlyweds. What you say and how you say it will probably be remembered—indeed immortalized due to smart phones and social media. Feeling pressured yet?
Okay, you’re not a member of Toast Masters. Don’t hit the panic button! We’ve ferreted out some helpful info on making your memorable speech worthy of social media.
In all likelihood, the bride and groom have researched toasts at the wedding reception. What is the proper order of toasts? Traditionally, the best man is the first to toast the newlyweds. After his toast, the maid or matron of honor may raise a toast. Next to follow are:
- The bride and groom toast together (or individually)
- Parents of the newlyweds
- Other guests asked to toast
Now you know where you stand in the que, let’s proceed with what to say. Allow love to inspire you. At the end of the day, a wedding is a celebration of love. It’s okay to get emotional but don’t drool on the mic. To start your salute with a bang, include one of these quotes on love and marriage.
- One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love. – Sophocles
- Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it.
Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it.
Hatred darkens life; love illumines it.– Martin Luther King, Jr.
- Marriage is the golden ring in a chain whose beginning is a glance and whose ending is Eternity. — Kahlil Gibran
- Marriage should be a duet — when one sings, the other claps. — Joe Murray
- Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. — Kahlil Gibran
- A good marriage is like a casserole, only those responsible for it really know what goes in it. – Anonymous
A quick search of the internet can reap big rewards in words. Quotes on marriage and love abound—some funny; some, like the above, serious.
You promised a How-To you’re thinking? Here’s a little checklist we encountered in our search:
- You don’t need backup singers. Sing this one solo. Remember you are speaking to an audience of friends who’re pulling for you.
- A toast should be brief. You don’t want to wander your past with the couple while everyone starts yawning.
- Tend to the specific. Don’t be vague. Back up your statements with short facts. “They are a perfect couple because…”
The plan: Introduce yourself + quote + amusing tale about the newlyweds (or one of them) + your love of her/him/them and why. May include why the spouse is a great match, accompanied by another romantic thought + “Cheers”. (Credit for this checklist: The Colbert Report‘s Meredith Scardino)
Feeling better? It’s easy and fun as well as a token of affection. Smile a lot! Salud!
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