If you are a friend of the bride and honoring her with a bridal shower, do plan but don’t take on all the work by yourself. It is customary for the maid of honor and bridesmaids to throw the bride a shower. If done right, it is a big undertaking. That said, the effort will be greatly appreciated.
Oh, yes, she will be in a whirlwind of wedding planning and trying to keep her feet on the ground about becoming Mrs. Beloved, but she’ll be grateful for every moment you spent on this festive treat for her. So! If you are charging in, you need, if not an army, at least a captain to help you as general. Here are a few ideas on what to do—and what not to do!
Do’s and Don’ts:
1. Do ask the bride what would interest her…or what would embarrass her. You should follow her wishes and forget your own, but do set up activities for your guests, encouraging them to mix and mingle.
2. Do serve nibbles, but it isn’t necessary to host a sit-down dinner—unless you want to. Light snacks, hors d’oeuvres, or a continental breakfast of pastries, fruit, and coffee and tea will be a gracious plenty.
3. Do enlist the aid of two others for the gift-giving part of the party—one to bring the gifts to the bride and another to write down the gifts and who gave them. She will be delighted that someone kept up with this.
4. Do pick an early date so that she isn’t already stressing about the wedding itself. Depending on where guests live, they may need to make travel plans in advance as well.
5. Do request the gift list, but don’t invite anyone to the shower that isn’t on the wedding guest list. Just isn’t done, is it? People will feel slighted, perhaps, or even
taken advantage of.
6. It’s a lovely gesture to send shower invitations but don’t get extravagant on the stationery. This is a bridal shower, not the wedding invitations! Paper invitations
are the most complimentary and the time involved will be appreciated.
7. Don’t use the wedding décor as inspiration for the bridal shower. Be original and keep the wedding décor secret for the Big Day.
8. Don’t include registry information on the shower invitation. This information may be inserted, or you can direct the guests to the bride’s and groom’s wedding
9. Do fashion a ribbon bouquet. Gather the ribbons from the gifts and create a bouquet for the bride to carry to the rehearsal. We love this. Isn’t that a lovely
Some advice for the Guest of Honor—the Bride:
Promptly send handwritten thank you notes to the shower guests and give the hostess(es) a small gift showing your appreciation, maybe a gift certificate for a
manicure or pedicure.
Lastly, you are stressing over wedding plans. Relax and enjoy your bridal shower. It’s not something else to get uptight about. Your friends are hosting this party for
you. Enjoy the day! Many smiles!!
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